The Dionysian Male

Two gods stand in contrast: Apollo and Dionysus. The Apollonian male is a “straight arrow,” circumspect and careful, hero of the patriarchy. Dionysus, to the patriarchal male viewpoint, is slightly mad, impulsive, off-balance, strange and associated with archaic sensibilities. These "gods" portray two versions of masculinity present in our culture as it undergoes a great transformation away from patriarchy and into equitable egalitarianism.

Psychologically, Apollo represents “solar phallos” identified by order and regularity. Dionysus’ intrinsic connection with femininity causes emotion with intensity, to feel rather than talk about feeling. To an intellectual Apollonian "male" separated from one’s feelings, such wantonness of emotion is unbearable. To a Dionysian, it is part and parcel to being, the consequence of spirit and flesh incarnate and embodied.

Dionysus was called the “womanly one,” the “womanly stranger” and the “man-womanish.” Women encircled his experience: Ariadne his wife, Semele his mother, Aphrodite his consort, Nymphs and Maenads his associates. Women expressed themselves in wild excitement during his rituals and festivals. Males in his stories were Satyrs, Centaurs, and Selini, lascivious expressions of masculinity mirroring the ithyphallic (erect phallus) representations of the god. Thus, Dionysus represents the carnal “underworld” and shadow connection to one’s unimproved nature –a primal connection to the depths of one’s being, a marriage of chthonic masculine and chthonic feminine in irrational orgy.

"The slightly mad qualities of Dionysus and his flock belong to psychic reality, and room must be made for them, whether or not Apollonians enjoy the coexistence. The fusion and confusion of masculine and feminine in the psychoid unconscious is expressed in the archetypal image of Dionysus." (from Phallos: Sacred Image of the Masculine by Eugene Monick)

Dionysian wisdom is beyond pure Apollonian understanding –being sourced from embodied experience. Dionysus is the transpersonal experience of life transcending personal ego and stoic scientific pragmatism and infused with embodied realism of natural experience. Only by giving way to such does one transcend intellectual impression with experiential psychoid (of the psyche and physical) reality.

The Dionysian male contains within himself not only masculine, but also strongly feminine qualities in a fusion of coexistence that integrates his unconscious and conscious expression of being in a holistic-androgynous expression of “male.”  He does not have a sexual identity problem –whether expressly heterosexual or homosexual in nature, he knows himself to be male yet he shares with women in a way that no Apollonian male can.

"The integration of chthonic phallos (with its overtones of the feminine) and solar phallos is the task of consciousness, a process inherent in the Dionysian image." (ibid)

The brotherhood of “male” is changing as men transmute patriarchal stereotypes of masculinity. While Apollonian masculinity favors patriarchal values of linearity and regularity, which serve Ego-personality –Dionysian masculinity favors equitable egalitarianism; integrating the vast resource of the unconscious with the conscious personality with inclusive synthesis thereof.

"New Consciousness, the movement beyond patriarchy, no longer requires diminishment of the feminine for phallic establishment. Masculinity finds its center as inner phallic reality. This, together with the anima, constitutes a restoration of wholeness in a male." (ibid)

The Dionysian male is psychoid-androgynous and chooses to incorporate an owned portion of the opposite gender into his dominant identity. "An androgynous person does not pretend to be a member of the opposite sex. An androgynous male will not repress his feminine characteristics, however much he may, at times, decide to suppress them. He knows that they are part of him, he has worked on his ego resistence to integrating them. He knows there will be times when he will choose to think and perhaps behave according to the "her" within him." (ibid)

Dionysus represents the possibility of masculine expression that includes chthonic phallos and its feminine aspects with Apollonian, solar phallos. To the extent that this takes place, a man moves closer to expressing unus mundus –the totality of masculinity in integrated expression– not burdened by patriarchal bias and limitation. The more Dionysus is accepted and represented in a man’s personality the more he expresses the holistic benevolence of this divine masculine archetype in its beatific totality.

Sunyata Satchitananda
www.SunyataSatchitananda.com

Tantra transcends the Trap of Duality: Fear and Insecurity

We are a dynamic multidimensional being with the ability to perceive consciousness on different planes of existence -from the apparent density of 3d physicality to the subtlest etheric vibration of 'spirit' in higher dimensional realms.

The place most of us stop and focus awareness at is in the plane of duality-awareness embedded in 3d-physical existence. Duality is useful here as part of the decision processing necessary for manifesting anything in this dimension. Ego is closely tied to duality -as the chief filter and information processor of dualistic information (on-off, yes-no, good-bad). Duality, unfortunately, is also predisposed to support Fear (resulting from logical, self-preserving point of view) and thus the Ego has become laden with fear, and that fear has become humanity’s dominant influence of awareness.

Insecurity is a flavor of fear that many people carry with them. Cultural biases and fads instigate and support feelings of insecurity which are manipulated and leveraged to support commercial, consumer processes and cycles set up by the ego to assuage itself.

Spiritual practice focuses awareness on the expanded nature of self. As consciousness disengages from its embedded state in 3d-duality it expands to perceive the continuation of the body into finer, subtler vibrations of being. At these “higher” levels of awareness only a feeling of connectedness and love exists -there is no fear.

The dominant influence of awareness at these levels of being is something we have no word for in our common language. It’s a feeling of “always-is-ness,” a primordial being-ness, a complete and utter security of being -to the point that there is no question of the possibility of a threat existing. None of the common fears in 3d affect who we are at the higher states of being. There is no “time” period. Nothing ends, nothing began, everything exists at an energetic level -it is simply transforming and evolving consciousness.

All distinctions of a beginning and ending universe are subject to 3d reality and only exist in that dimension. The goal of spiritual practice is to reorient awareness to a higher level that maintains an always-is-ness confidence of being while “playing” in 3d manifesting and co-creating. Tantra, as a spiritual pathway, is remarkable for its capacity to use physical, 3d experience as both a doorway and catapult for consciousness expansion and reorientation to higher levels of being.

Tantric practices gradually transfer awareness from duality to unity consciousness. Tantric practice frees consciousness from the bonds of 3d by engaging this dimension’s fundamental aspect of physical pleasure: sex. Following its vibrational leading to subtler dimensions of spirit, consciousness is transformed and expanded by direct experience. From this higher-perspective of awareness, fear and insecurity can be consciously released as not serving the higher-good of the self; resting in the always-is-ness feeling of being. Thus Tantra effects the entirety of living, aiding the adherent in shifting dominant feelings from fear to confidence-of-being.

Sunyata Satchitananda
www.SunyataSatchitananda.com

The Journey to Vitality and Wholeness: Sexual Healing - Emotional Integration - Erotic Empowerment

Are you frustrated by the repetition of unhappy relationships with similar patterns that prevent deep intimacy and trust?

Have you withdrawn from seeking intimacy and sex because its easier to be alone and celibate than deal with the drama and emotional pain of a “relationship?”

Are you hoping there is more to sex and intimacy than what your experience has been?

Do you long for a “spiritual” connection in your sexual expression?

Are you tired of the same dysfunctional sabotaging that pops up ruining your opportunities for intimacy and happiness?

Have you given up thinking you’ll find someone who really sees your beauty, your unique gifts, your divinity?

Are you plagued with thoughts and feelings of being not “good enough” or not desired by others?

People who have experienced trauma, abuse, sexual and emotional battering and wounding often feel they are in the situations described above. Adding to feelings of frustration is the thought of not knowing what to do or where to look for help with such intimate and private concerns.

Studies show that it is a rare exception to not have experienced the trauma or abuse and wounding mentioned above during one‘s lifetime. It seems most of us have embedded memories in our being of such experiences and it is these unprocessed experiences that subliminally effect our engagement with other people and the stories we tell ourselves about our life and relationships. Its only by processing and integrating these “shadow” aspects of one’s experience are we able to benefit from -instead of be at the mercy of- their energy and reclaim these alienated pieces of our self. Doing so brings relief and empowerment -a feeling of unity and wholeness pervades one’s being. Past situations and concerns that plagued us no longer inhibit or contract the experience of happiness and fulfillment we feel.

Energy Knots
Emotional, mental and physical trauma and abuse creates an acute experience which -understanding and acceptance of- is rejected as being unacceptable, frightening, and abhorrent. This rejection is a massive surge of emotional, mental, and physical energy that embeds in one’s being a clog of energy that acts like a sore muscle does when there’s a knot in it. These “energy knots” continue and can fester to greatly influence our life experience if not attended to.

Many people get by with coping skills that enlist anger, manipulation or dominance -or retreat into depression, self abuse, or acting out. Often feelings of low self esteem, worthlessness, unworthiness, and failure are unconsciously addressed by distractions: overcompensating with family, career, consuming hobbies, drug or alcohol abuse, overeating and/or indiscriminate sex. During our life experience whenever one comes up against a situation that triggers the wounding of the “energy knot” a reaction occurs with unconscious behavior or words that often creates the opposite of what is in one's best interest or desired as an outcome.

Many therapy modalities exist and most are implemented as a form of “talk therapy” -endeavoring to clear impacted emotional blocks and distortions through the mind‘s functioning. Talk therapy provides treatment and processing that can be effective on a mental level by providing some intellectual understanding, limited emotional level activation -and very little, if any, physical engagement. Alternately, most “body therapies” don’t consciously or purposely engage the emotions or seek to bring new consciousness into effect.

Healing Touch
When emotional wounding, abuse and trauma enters one’s awareness it triggers thoughts, emotions and physical feelings that combine to embed lasting tender spots in one’s psyche. Because the imprinting of abuse and trauma involves all three aspects of being, (emotional, mental and physical) the process of releasing emotional wounds and integrating their power necessarily involves all three aspects as well. Without this holistic approach to clearing, releasing and integrating blocked energy often only limited and temporary effects are felt.

Because many of the occurrences of abuse and trauma happen in connection with the sexual body (incest, rape, sexual abuse, molestation, sexual hazing) a healing modality that addresses this aspect directly in a therapeutic process is preferred. Sexual Healers (Daka, Dakini, Sacred Intimate, Intimacy Coach, Sexological Bodyworker, Sensual Guide) provide such a holistic health service with knowledge, expertise and experience in activating and addressing the emotional, mental and physical aspects of self in releasing and shifting blocked energies for a return to wholeness.

Sexual Healers
Sexual Healers provide safe space with sacred intention -holding precious the vulnerability of -and trust placed in them by- their client. A clear container that respects boundaries and adeptly guides the client to deeper layers of opening, acceptance, and releasing, provides the basis of a healing session. Sexual Healers work with one’s personal evolutionary impulse (entelechy) and help one to open up to what wants to be cleared, shifted, and released to create a new feeling of empowered completeness in the client.

Sexual Healers provide a feeling of safety, confidence, acceptance, non-judgment, inspiration and new possibility. They engage and activate the emotional body by a process that includes physical and mental stimulation catalyzing energy knots to release and open -allowing energy to flow freely again. By quieting the mind to release mundane concerns, guiding with a relaxed focus and simple visualization, and adding appropriate higher-consciousness, the mental component on the path to integration is addressed. By also engaging the physical body through sensual touch that both relaxes the body and stimulates erotic energy, the Daka or Dakini provides an effective means to loosen and shift energy knots into releasing and integration. The intention is not for sexual gratification, rather, erotic energy is enlisted for its catalytic and healing ability.

Sexual Healers function similarly to other alternative health service providers and counselors/coaches, setting up a program of sessions that addresses the unique circumstances of the client. Unwinding emotional energy knots and returning to wholeness and empowerment is a process that often requires more than one session for complete results to be felt.

The Journey "Home"
The journey to healing and wholeness is a process that contains feelings of accomplishment, relief and ecstatic joy -as well as aspects of anxiety, discomfort, and fear because these elements are entwined in the energy knot. When these knots are unraveled and released, significant discomfort (accompanying relief) can result. This can prompt the ego to challenge the wisdom of the path one is taking to heal and release these energy knots. The situation is similar to someone starting an exercise program for the first time -muscles that haven't been worked very hard begin to "complain" and one's resolve is challenged, often ending the exercise program and the good intentions of the individual. People who complete their course of healing and integration report feeling more beautiful, sexy, clear, attractive, confident, empowered, and whole. You, dear reader, are invited to look within and discover the places where you have contraction, restriction, or inhibition and seek guidance and a program of healing and integration so you also can feel the benefits of holistic health, emotional and psychological vitality, and be inspired to new heights of expression and well-being.

Namaste,
Sunyata Satchitananda
Spiritual Counselor, Daka-Sacred Intimate,
Certified Tantric Healer ~ Reiki Master
www.SunyataSatchitananda.com 

Sexual Healing: Internal Pelvic Release

Sexual Healing with Internal Pelvic Release

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In Sexual Healing sessions, it is sometimes advisable that the Internal Pelvic Release procedure would be beneficial to the client’s progress in releasing stored and blocked energies. Internal Pelvic Release provides an opportunity to release and open “energy knots” (emotional-physical contractions) often stored in the pelvis, vagina and anus area. After thorough discussion and consideration of the Internal Pelvic Release procedure, informed consent is reached, allowing the session to proceed.

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Internal Pelvic Release procedure is one where the “yoni” (vagina) receives gentle probing, looking for places in the vaginal walls that are unresponsive, “numb,” or have some discomfort to touch. These locations inside the body often contain strong emotion associated with past wounding or trauma. The method used is reflective of Myofascial Release or Visceral Manipulation “light touch” alternative healing therapies.

Reasons for seeking Sexual Healing with Internal Pelvic Release

Due to rampant misogyny present in many cultures around the world, many if not most, women have experienced physical abuse, sexual trauma, rape, and/or molestation—as well as frequent episodes of mental and emotional abuse. More common are subtle forms of abuse that make women feel pressured to submit or accommodate the sexual gratification of their husband or lover when they don’t desire sex or aren’t fully open to sexual engagement. All of these circumstances produce contractions and restrictions of a woman’s energy and can create emotional-physical “knots” that reside in physical locations of the body.

The overwhelming, “bad experience” is stored in body-memory tissue located usually in the vagina, pelvis and/or anus areas of the body. These knots have the affect of clamping down a woman’s full enjoyment of sexual engagement and can create unresponsive or numb areas of the body. These energy-knots often affect sexual desire as well. Women who experience this condition may compensate or ignore their feelings of disconnect, numbness, pain or anger and “just go-along” with their husband or lover’s request for sex—further compounding their condition. This certainly takes a toll on a relationship—slowly eroding the intimacy and freedom of sexual expression she feels.

Internal Pelvic Release (a.k.a. “Yoni Healing”) is an important asset in sexual healing for women. To experience the full effect of flowing sexual energy it is essential that the energetic pathways of the body be prepared, clear and open. When this is the case, women feel empowered and free in their sexual expression and embodiment of Shakti (Divine Feminine) energy. They feel “lighter,” more enlivened, and experience expanded sensual sensitivity and orgasmic response to their lover’s attention. * additional article: Sacred Intimacy & Sexual Healing

IPR Procedure

• The following description is for information purposes only and is not intended to completely equip anyone to perform this procedure. Anyone interested in performing the Internal Pelvic Release procedure should not attempt it without previously receiving personal instruction and guidance by an experienced teacher-practitioner.
• No part of the Internal Pelvic Release procedure is meant to treat or cure disease—or replace regular medical practice or prescribed treatment by a physician.
• Before beginning an IPR session it is important to have first had a thorough discussion about the procedure that allows the recipient to fully consider her options and authentically settle on, and approve, receiving the IPR procedure.

To create a holistic healing opportunity there first needs to be a sense of “space” (detachment or “neutrality”) around the issues causing contraction that are embedded like a memory in the body. Before beginning the IPR procedure, gently discuss past abuse, trauma, and emotional wounding with an intention of creating deeper understanding and achieving a measure of detachment. Encourage a perspective that holds the intention of releasing the contracted energy and emotion while opening to healing and restoring wholeness. With this accomplished, the physical aspect of the procedure has greater impact and is welcomed by the body.

To prepare the body, a full-body sensual massage is given. It is essential to deeply relax the body so its unconscious “armoring” (emotional-physical clenching/contracting) is lowered and energy is flowing more easily. Tantric energy skills are employed to open the energy pathways of the body in preparation for the energy flow that follows. Only when the body is readied in this manner will the Internal Pelvic Release procedure be affective.

Internal Pelvic Release

During the conversation discussing the IPR procedure, an important subject to cover is STD/STI (sexually transmitted disease or infection) exposures. Resulting from this discussion, and/or client preference, the healing facilitator may find it necessary to wear medical gloves to protect against STD/STI transmission. Medical gloves, while providing protection, also diminish detection sensitivity—so after frank and honest discussion, if the health history of the client (and healing facilitator) is clear, both parties might reasonably conclude that gloves are not necessary for the IPR procedure.

After sensually massaging the body, it is very important for the healing facilitator to ask permission before engaging the yoni. The woman receiving this procedure must feel completely at-choice, with nothing being “taken” from her nor having to submit to something she is not desiring or ready for. Ask permission and receive her verbal “yes” and then wait for her yoni to also “say yes” by its feel—open, receptive, welcoming.

The exterior of the yoni receives a sensual massage that is intended to relax the yoni and open her to receiving deeper contact and vaginal penetration. Signs the yoni is ready include: feels warm to hot, engorged tissue/lips, erect clitoris, abundance of fluids present. If the yoni is not responding, don’t force, push, or try to make something happen. Likely, there are emotions, judgments, or memories preventing her from relaxing or being a complete “yes.” Go slow and, through inquiry and counseling, be sensitive to making sure the emotional body is in alignment with the physical body and the woman’s intention to release, open, and heal.

When the yoni is prepared and ready to be entered and the healing facilitator receives consent to enter the yoni, do so with one finger (lubricated) and slowly, softly, gently probe the vaginal walls for areas of tightness, tenderness, soreness, or pain. When such areas are encountered, a gentle but firm pressure is applied (without “rubbing” or creating friction) merely meeting the contracted spot with firm-but-gentle pressure that equals the firmness of the contraction without trying to force it to release.

An adept healing facilitator will be able to energetically sense the contracted or “knotted” locations and bring his focus of energy while placing subtle pressure to that spot. The woman receiving is invited to focus her awareness on this location and “breath-into” it with the intention of allowing release, opening, healing to occur.

The physical process is reflective of Myofascial Release or Visceral Manipulation “light touch” therapies. The practitioner will hold gentle, consistent pressure until there is a release in the tissue. As the the vaginal wall tissue releases, there is a definite feeling of softening and opening that occurs—including an opening of energetic flow (often producing spontaneous undulations or spasms of pleasure). The release can often be accompanied by vocalization of strong emotion, sobbing tears, and/or physical reactions of shaking and sweating.

After one area is addressed, thoroughly “canvass” the rest of the yoni wall and address additional locations where energy knots occur—providing a “clearing” of the yoni. It is often necessary to receive more than one session for complete clearing to occur.

A Different Touch

The Internal Pelvic Release procedure is not designed to be sexual or provoke orgasm, although orgasms can occur during the procedure. In addition, the release associated with IPR is different from invoking female ejaculation. IPR and the sensual massage included with it is a touch that employs therapeutically applied erotic energy, transferring the intention of wholeness, complete acceptance, and well being.

The IPR procedure will contact tender, sensitive, and sometimes painful areas of tight, clenched tissue or muscle in the stomach, yoni and anus area. This touch is gentle—meeting the “tightness” with equal presence without resistance. The touch of IPR is meant to feel loving, supportive, and healing and promotes relaxation and welcoming of touch to this area —releasing any armoring or stiffness or numbness felt in the pelvis or genitals.

Benefits of Internal Pelvic Release

Enjoying sexual experience requires a woman’s sexual energy to flow freely without inhibition or contraction. The energy knots addressed by the IPR procedure are responsible for decreased sexual enjoyment and reduced ability to be present and feel sexual experience fully. By freeing these areas of the body from contraction it allows for the free-flow of sexual energy through the three lower “Chakras” (energy centers) in the body.

The Chakras are esoteric non-physical energy centers associated with areas of the body. These energy centers function as processors, transformers and distributors of energy to physically correlated organs, glands, and nerves in the body.

The Root Chakra (Sanskrit: Muladhara, located at the end of the tail-bone, represented by the perineum) is connected to one’s relationship with community, family, survival, feeling grounded and connected to Mother Earth Gaia. It is through this source all our material-physical manifestations come from; procreation/creation. The Root Chakra is said to be the dwelling place of dormant sexual energy.



The Sacral Chakra (Sanskrit: Swadhisthana) is associated with the pelvis and genitals of the body and is connected to sexual expression and embodying “Shakti” (divine feminine energy) resulting in a sensuality of being. The Sacral Chakra is also associated with Eros, vital force, inspiration, creative spark, strong emotion, vitality, and vibrancy of life.





The Solar Chakra (Sanskrit: Manipura) is connected to personal power and the ability to manifest one’s dreams or intentions. The Solar Chakra is located about three fingers below the sternum’s end on the rib cage and is associated with the stomach. If you experience unusual tightness in the stomach area, cramping, bloating, or elimination issues, you might have Solar Chakra issues activated. Clearing this Chakra empowers one’s life with confidence, clear intention and ability to manifest one’s goals and desires.

By clearing these three Chakras from blockages, contractions and restrictions life becomes filled with vibrant energy, sensuality, confidence, and tremendous expanded erotic and orgasmic ability.

Completion

Completing the procedure involves holding space and staying present without trying to fix anything or stop any emotion from being expressed or released. The healing facilitator can offer support with his presence, eye-contact, holding hands, embracing the receiver as desired -or not- by her. Gentle, long strokes to the body are often welcomed. One hand present at the yoni (exterior) in support of releasing and integrating the energy can feel supportive and soothing. The other hand may gently stroke the body aura to bring the energy up and out through the body—onto whatever energetic disbursement Spirit’s wisdom has in store for it. Sometimes the receiver can become cold at this time, so it is good to have a blanket or sheet available. Compression squeezes through the covering are often welcomed—feeling deeply cared for and nurtured and warm.

The Male Sacred Intimate: Sexual Healer -Facilitator of Integration and Wholeness

I am a Man serving as a Sacred Intimate (Daka, Sexual Healer). I’ve worked as a carpenter, insurance inspector, photographer, TV station manager, and Development Director so you might wonder how did I come to be one who engages sexual energy with the intention of healing, shifting, releasing and opening energy blockages consisting of: emotional wounds, judgment, shame, powerlessness, low self-esteem and inexperience.

My path to becoming a Sacred Intimate started when I was pursuing a fine art photographer career. I created fine art nude-in-nature imagery which was well received and published in several issues of FOCUS magazine and shown at Photo San Francisco. The women who posed for me weren’t professional models and for many it was their first time to be photographed unclothed. I was professional and respectful, making sure they were comfortable, warm, and at-ease. Many of these women had remarkable responses to seeing their beauty portrayed in fine art imagery. From these experiences I yearned to be able to positively affect a woman’s self-esteem and realization of her beauty and innate divinity -however I had no idea what form that service might be.

I began studying Tantra and sacred sexuality. It was here that I found a basis for understanding sexuality and the dynamic of male-female energy engagement. This took me to a higher possibility for sexual engagement and created a container that supported transcendence within sexual relationship. Through my own process of healing, opening, and releasing my “blocks” to wholeness and integration I was able to reach a place within where I could serve the women in my life with similar processing, education, and coaching.

Eventually I met and began a relationship with, a woman who was serving as a Sacred Intimate (Dakini). Through her introduction and example, I was presented with the form my service could take. I desired formal certification to become a “Daka” and found a teacher for that purpose. I became certified as a Tantric Healer and started offering sexual healing sessions soon thereafter.

Before I began giving sessions as a Daka I went through a period of deep introspection, contemplating my motivation for serving in this capacity. Was I doing this to “get dates?” Was there some sexual gratification in the process for me? How did I feel about serving women I wasn’t attracted to? Would I serve men too? What were my boundaries, what was I willing/not willing to provide in a session?

My fears came up: Did I know enough, would I be good enough? Would I be able to fulfill the client’s expectations for the session? Could I keep my emotional “distance” and not become enmeshed/entangled with a client’s feelings or circumstances? Fortunately, I discovered, fears are always worse than what is actually experienced. My sessions were perfect, each a lesson in relaxing into being present and holding space without a personal agenda -which is a large part of my service as a Daka.

One of the big questions was: Would I serve Men? At first, I was disinclined because I am heterosexual, but then realized I was perpetuating my own homophobic fears. So, I remained open and after several gay or bisexual men contacted me for sessions I decided to give it a try. This process was perfect because it made me take another, closer, look at the purpose of the sessions I offer. For me, sessions are about healing and integration and realizing one’s divinity and higher awareness of being and not merely for the client’s sexual gratification. I realized that I was uncomfortable with providing “directed release” (a.k.a. “a happy ending”) as an expectation in the session. With either men or women, orgasms can happen, but they are not the goal of the session. I teach meditation and breathing techniques and energy awareness which combine to produce an expanded understanding and experience of orgasm when it occurs -and give men the option of not ejaculating but retaining the energy and moving it up through their body for an expanded experience.

So why do men and women come to see me in sexual healing sessions?

My sessions focus on sexual healing, releasing, opening and clearing energy blockages stemming from past trauma, emotional wounds, judgments, shame, powerlessness, and messages prompting low self-esteem. These blocks take the form of “hot spots” of tension stored in the body at various locations -often in the first or second Chakra area. Both men and women carry these blockages and both benefit from being consciously touched with loving, accepting, nurturing energy. By being present and providing loving touch, an opportunity is presented for the stored energy to shift, move, open, and release as a result of the intention for healing and integration held by the client. I gently steward our session and provide a safe and sacred container for such releases to occur.

Another reason men and women have sessions with me is due to the profound absence in our culture for healthy modeling of masculine attributes that support holistic growth and integration in the psyche. Women experience a double dose of discouragement when trying to grow into integrated wholeness by receiving healthy masculine modeling. There are very limited positive resources to model one’s inner masculine after and when women do assert masculine aspects they are often demeaned as a “bitch” or “dyke” by immature male egos.

Men likewise have scant resources for such modeling, and often receive their “training in being a man” from their father, grandfather, older brothers, uncles, superiors at work, or religious leaders -many of whom are emotional-adolescents themselves! Sessions with me give one the opportunity to explore healthy male energy that does not have an agenda for personal fulfillment or egoic gain.

A third aspect of sessions with me centers on healthy unconditional acceptance and touch. Many people do not have a resource for this in their life. And there seems to always be an attachment of expectation for reciprocal treatment -at the least- or worse, a one-way “using” of the other for sexual gratification. Women especially, report feeling like their husbands are just using their body to “get off” and don’t feel “seen” or felt as being present with -during sex.

I provide present, unconditionally loving acceptance and touch to whomever is before me -loving their body in all its shapes, sizes, colors, ages, and forms. For some people, my touch is the only experience of loving acceptance their body has had since they were very young. Sessions with me are often among one’s first steps towards body acceptance and better self-esteem.

Another significant category of client are women who have chosen to be celibate for one reason or another. These women often choose to experiment with male energy in a safe and sacred container, knowing nothing is expected of them in return and they can relax into positive male energy and maintain their choice of celibacy.

Men clients come to see me for many of the same reasons women do. Men have also experienced trauma, emotional wounding, and abuse and desire a safe container to release blockages of judgment, shame, powerlessness, guilt and low self-esteem. Whatever their sexual orientation, positive male energy is invaluable to experience and incorporate in one's life and men find their time with me to be nurturing and supportive in this way. Also, some heterosexual men desire to experiment with male energy in a safe and sacred container without the expectation of sex. I provide a positive engagement that meets this desire without judgment or pressure for sex.

What happens in a session with me?
Many clients are nervous in the beginning of their first session. Quickly that releases as one feels my presence, unconditional love and open listening which fosters trust and shifts the experience into relaxed confidence. I spend a significant amount of time counseling and coaching, which brings conscious awareness to personal and relationship challenges and a higher possibility for sexual engagement. I ask clients to share with me their intention and desire for our time together and what part of their story which seems relevant to our session. We discuss their intention, desires and concerns and I ask them to hold these lightly during our session and see what wants to shift, open, release, and integrate.

Because energy blocks are accepted into our being through a process that goes from the more subtle etheric bodies (intellectually, emotionally, spiritually) into the density of the physical body (and gets lodged there in “storage”). The process to release such blocks includes a similar pathway. I co-create with the client an opportunity for shifting or release by bringing a higher-consciousness to the underlying emotional and psychological issues attached to the blockage. Then I engage the body through breathing techniques, movement and massage to activate the specific areas harboring these blockages.

To get to the state where a shift or release can happen the body must be deeply relaxed, where armoring defenses are inactive. The quality of touch conveyed during the massage is one of unconditional love and acceptance, nurturing wholeness and well-being. There is no salacious “getting-off” energy part of this process, I am merely bringing the opposite of: judgment, fear, shame, and guilt to these sensitive areas of the body -and holding space for whatever wants to happen to occur.

I begin the session with a “centering” exercise using eye-gazing and breathing. I often follow this time with some core-connected “meditative movement” -a slow “dance” of stretching and moving our bodies to aid in embedding the new consciousness discussed earlier in the session. This is followed by a full-body sensual massage that includes the entirety of the body.

A full body sensuous massage includes the “private areas” of the body. For these areas, I ask permission first, and then wait for the body to also say “yes.” For the yoni (vagina), it is a three-step process. First, permission is received to start engagement with the yoni exterior, then when that is complete, permission is granted to enter the yoni for the interior release process, and third, permission to engage the sacred spot (another area that often carries shame, judgment, and fear). Each step is given respectful pause and consideration so that the woman feels completely at-choice and that nothing is being “taken” from her in the massage.

The massage is followed by a period of “completion” where I simply hold space and stay present to the venting or releasing that has occurred. If the client is open to it I eye-gaze with them for a bit to connect (sometimes however, the client desires to “go within” and close their eyes for a while) and we might hold hands or with my hand to their heart, so there is no abrupt ending to the session.

I also offer follow up counseling/coaching by phone or email for what may come up during the days/weeks that follow the session. Many clients benefit from repeat sessions which clear more blockages and allow for further integration and a return to a sense of wholeness and well-being.

Sessions for couples.
I feel humbly blessed to be trusted by a couple who are revealing their relationship’s challenges and desires. Couples often have issues around sexuality and intimacy and it is wonderful to experience the “ah-hah” moments where consciously connecting-the-dots creates a shift or opening that allows more love to shine through. I use a process of bringing consciousness to challenging aspects of relationship followed by integration with movement, breathing and massage to create a higher possibility for the couple’s love to deepen and intimacy to be felt .

Often couples come for sexual enhancement and also end up learning advanced sensitivity and communication skills and/or ways of bringing presence and consciousness to their relationship more fully. For many couples, sessions include discussion, coaching, education, demonstration, and body integration which I initiate and also teach them to do with each other. In addition, I offer sessions co-facilitated with a Dakini, Kali Devi, for those who are more comfortable with a couple leading the session.

As more women become apprised of the opportunity to grow into fullness by releasing blockages of energy through Sacred Intimate sessions our culture will begin to heal itself more rapidly. As men become more sensitive to the higher possibility of masculine/feminine integration and appreciation of their feminine aspect they will find eager support from women who share the desire for higher possibility in relationship and the social evolution of our species. Sacred Intimates, male and female, lead in this endeavor and provide opportunities for individuals and couples to expand in love and self-integration for a more holistic experience of life and love.

Please join me September 12-14th 2008 at Harbin Hot Springs in northern California for the World Polyamory Conference where I will be facilitating a workshop entitled: The Sacred Intimate: Agents of Love and Light. Also, please visit my web site to read more information about my sacred service offerings and to be notified of the release of my book “Love, Sex & Consciousness: a Handbook for the Aquarian Age” -coming soon. I am also accepting new clients, so please contact me with your desire for a session.

Love and Light,
Sunyata Satchitananda
www.SunyataSatchitananda.com

Holding Space

Holding Space for someone means staying engaged and present with them while they undergo a process of self-inquiry and discovery of truth. The process can often be a rough one that includes emotional releases and a potential for volatile reactions.

To be the holder-of-the-space is an opportunity to see the divine unfold before you in new and dynamic ways. Its important to avoid feeding the wounded "pain-body" energy which often accompanies emotional releases. Don't take personally the emotion present. Support the higher consciousness as it appears with healthful words of encouragement and/or affirmation. When it is asked for, you might also provide comfort by holding hands or embracing -allowing the contact to flow undirected by you.

Often the energy turns downward in vibration, seeking its previous familiarity-with-discomfort. When you hold the higher-consciousness up as the higher potential you are like a light-house beacon that radiates the light of truth that releases the hold of the shadow in that moment. Clarity of focus returns and the process continues until completion.

Holding space in this manner often includes setting the example and pace with deep breathing -without "instructing"-merely gently encouraging (tactfully, without verbalizing if possible).

You may feel compelled to engage with the person having the process. Bring gentleness and consciousness to your engagement using loving words. Realizing that the person before you is experiencing a process that can be difficult to bear without emotional releases. Radiate Love to this person before you. Say what comes from your heart and don't engage with attempts to hook you into feeding the "pain-body" with heated emotional release.

You'll know when the space is no longer wanting to be held. Some deep, cleansing breaths are good to do at that time. Hugs seem to be a must-do. *smile*

Celebrate the higher consciousness and greater clarity.
Receive appreciation for your clear, strong, holding-of-space.

Recognize the divine in all that has transpired.
Love one another.

Namaste,
Sunyata Satchitananda
www.SunyataSatchitananda.com

Divine Union - Peace in Our Garden

Here is a piece from the channeled book: "I Remember Union: the Story of Mary Magdalena" by Flo Calhoun
You can also hear me read this passage on my new voice blog entry on Snapvine: www.snapvine.com/bp/mvueOP...VgAwSFs39g

I'm including it in my blog because, to me, it represents a prophesy of integration and unity. And this is where we are all heading in our personal evolution/ascension process. We need new prophesies and new understandings of old ones to lead us to this higher possibility of integration and wholeness -relating as divines...

AND IT IS WRITTEN:

There will be among all the people the peace of a million years of dreaming.

And it will come to pass that there will be no separation.

The people will rise together, young and old, female and male, and there will be equality.

And all nations shall be as stars shining from the same sky with the same intention: to light the way for mankind.

The days shall number years and millenniums, and it will come to pass that these moments are all the same, simultaneous.

Then all the knowledge and all the words of learning will be reborn into the awareness, and all will be understood.

The questions will be answered, the meanings known.

And there will be no more aloneness, for the people will reach out from their souls and their hearts.

And their visions will be of unity, truth, and order.

The ways of mankind will become the ways of the angels, and there will be the coming together of all ages in one moment.

And the learnings will at last be clear.

The people shall rejoice and dance within, and all the kingdoms shall rise together, as if from the mist of the dreams of humanity, and forge a union with the divine.

The way shall be lighted with the truth from the spheres.

And man shall join woman in the final dance of alchemy.

All despair shall be lifted and transformed into the rainbow of peace.

There shall be no war, no famine, and no pestilence.

For the Lord and the Goddess shall merge-and the night and the day.

All of the forces shall come together to signal the end and the beginning.

The belief of duality will be laid to rest, and all dichotomy shall pass away.

The people will remember and search no more.

Their feet and their hands, their hearts and their souls, shall merge within and without.

The microcosm shall become the macrocosm.

The moments shall merge to be experienced as time standing still.

Each moment shall embrace all desire and all need, fulfilling their greatest longings.

There will be no loss or abandonment, for all will be made known.

The Father and the Mother shall join hands across the sky, embracing all their children in the crystal light of being.

And they will rest forever,the children, in the bosoms of truth and love, and all else will pass away.

And so it is written.

And so it is.

Peace in our garden.